How Masturbation can affect your psychological well being
One of the most destructive emotions a person can experience is guilt especially if it was repetitive. Because most known religious and religious scriptures condemn masturbation any person who believes in any of these religions will experience guilt after masturbating even if he didn't notice its presence.
The guilt in this case will keep accumulating and increasing as long as the person is addicted to masturbation until one day he will find himself depressed without knowing why.(see What causes depression)
Even if you don't believe in any religion that condemns masturbation still masturbating can affect you psychologically by reminding you of the fact that you can't get into a true relationship or that you fear intimacy.
Masturbation addiction causes
So why would someone become addicted to masturbation?
and Why do some married people become addicted to masturbation even though they have another option?
Here are some psychological causes for masturbation addiction:
Lack of intimacy: Believe it or not. Some people need sex to fill the gap resulting from the need of intimacy. Many of the people who are obsessed about sex (not all of them) have unmet need for intimacy. Their parents might have ignored their needs when they were little children or they might have never felt loved before and that's why their unconscious desire for sex became much higher. Certainly its so normal that human beings have a certain desire for sex but when this desire exceeds the limits and leads to excessive masturbation then this means that there is another unmet need that this person is trying to satisfy other than the need for sex itself.
Social withdrawal: Social withdrawal and masturbation addiction are highly connected. Usually when the person is excessively shy, when he doesn't have a good social life or when he fails to get the approval of the members of the other sex then he might turn to masturbation addiction to fulfill such psychological needs
Bad moods & life problems: Some people have developed the habit of escaping from problems instead of facing them. One of the methods those people use to escape from problems is masturbation addiction. If you are one of those people then you will notice that you masturbate whenever you feel bad, down or sad
Rejection: This might sound weird too but it was found that experiencing rejection especially from the other sex is one of the factors that motivates people to become addicted to masturbation (see How to overcome rejection)
Fear of intimacy: Some people have developed fear of intimacy as a result of going through poor past experiences with the other sex. Those are the people who become addicted to masturbation even though they are married.
Masturbation Facts: Side Effects of Masturbation
Masturbation is in-built in men and women practice it coyly. But you can’t escape masturbation, it is part of life. There are certain facts and rumours in-relation to masturbation that you cannot avoid. We break the ice on this taboo topic.
Must-Know Facts About Masturbation
Masturbation has positive side effects that you will agree too:
- Relief through ejaculation
- Climax for fun and pleasure
- Induces sleep
- Relaxes you
- Eases tension
It is important to be gentle on your genitals to avoid sores and help you get back to normalcy.
There are few negative effects of masturbation, these are:
- Masturbation lowers sperm count, reduces your chance of conceiving.
- Frequent masturbation will take longer to satisfy you and for you to ejaculate. Space it out.
- If your hands are rough, your genitals will have scratches.
- Vigourous movements will cause swelling too.
- Social stigma on the act of masturbation can lower your morale.
Myths on masturbation:
- You will not grow hairy palms when you masturbate.
- Nor will you develop acne for masturbation.
- There is lack of evidence that regular ejaculation will affect your erection.
10 Effective Ways to Stop Masturbating
The immense pleasure derived from frequent masturbation can be extremely addictive. However, this addiction can become an obsessive activity that interferes with daily living. Furthermore, it may result in loss of sex drive, depression, or even impotence. To prevent these potentially severe side effects, we will reveal the ten most effective ways to end chronic masturbation.
- Rubber band
Place a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you get the urge to masturbate, flick the rubber band. This will eventually condition you to associate masturbation with the pain, thereby deterring you from the act. The mere thought of masturbation may even cease to cross your mind.
When you get the urge to masturbate, quickly engage in an alternative activity. Whether you pick up a book or go to the movies with friends, participate in anything that will successfully distract you from your masturbatory desires.
Do not hesitate to admit that you need professional help. Therapists offer beneficial coping mechanisms to help overcome chronic masturbation. Beyond recommending daily tools to break the habit, they also provide a supportive environment for open communication.
- Help from loved ones
If you have a romantic partner, be open with them about your condition. This should remove any feelings of guilt or shame associated with chronic masturbation, as you will no longer have to hide a "dirty little secret" from your loved one.
- Replace that pleasure with a different one
Find other pleasurable activities that bring you joy. Find an enjoyable hobby that requires your full attention. For example, if you enjoy art take a painting class.
Jogging and other forms of exercise are a great way to take masturbation off your mind. Jogging will require your complete attention - from listening to your heartbeat to inhaling each new breath of fresh air. Masturbation will have no place on the forefront of your mind. So the more you engage in exercise, the less time you will have to think about masturbating. Eventually, you may be able to overcome your addiction.
Yoga is an extremely relaxing activity. It requires you to concentrate solely on breathing and posture. This newfound focus should prevent obsessive thoughts about masturbation.
- Evaluate your life
Analyze your life. Determine what makes you happy and what does not. You may find that something stressful in your life is causing this chronic masturbation. Elucidating the underlying stressor will enable you to resolve it, ultimately allowing you to overcome the addiction.
- A new friend
If your chronic masturbation is due to intimacy issues, consider purchasing a pet as a therapeutic measure. They will accept you for who you are without judgment. They will provide you the companionship you may need to stop masturbating.
- Speed dating
This is an alternative solution to intimacy problems. Speed dating is a fun way to get to know a diverse range of potential romantic partners, without the added pressure of traditional dating. This can be a fun and effective way to ultimately acquire a new girlfriend or boyfriend, which may therefore reduce your reliance on masturbation.
There are so many enjoyable activities that you will miss out on if you don't overcome chronic masturbation, so hopefully this article has provided you the necessary tools to do so.