New to this forum but need some advice so thanks in advance for any wisdom.
Firstly let me be clear, I have only ever slept with two girls as the first was a 4 year relationship however I have no issue getting someone home with me and I am very sexually confident most of the time. (I get good reviews on yelp you could say)
But the other night I was at a bar with friends, one of the girls I have had tension with for a while got a little drunk and confessed her cursh etc, next thing I know she is all over me and we are making out/fooling around behind the bar. Now I had just gotten out of a the 4 year relationship about a month ago and although I quite often have the chance I had never done the one night stand thing. So me being a nice guy/pussy stopped the girl and got in my car and left before things got out of hand (shes a friend and all)
I get home and my phone rings (its her) "Whats your address, I am on my way to .... you"
Again I felt pretty awkward as I normally date first but I also wanted her to stop driving because she was drunk, so I told her and said come over.
As soon as she gets through the door its on like donkey kong and I honestly just couldn't clear my head because it was so sudden. One thing lead to another and this is where I need the advice haha....
In my humble opinion I am a decent lay, I am large, I'm athletic (ish aha) and I have never had an issue making a girl come through sex or anything out.
NOW, when I wen't to sleep with this girl I honestly just couldn't do it. It was half because we had no condom and I was worried but more so because she was just so so so super horny. I mean this girl was telling me "be prepaired I am going to squirt all over you" and **** like "Choke me" "pull my hair"
Now I am all for being hot and heavy but I have to be honest, I was intimidated, we fooled around, I wen't down on her (sure enough a squirter) and she went down on me but I couldn't come... (she assumed this was because I didn't find her hot which was really annoying)
Basically she scared my dick limp with being to over the top.
I really like this girl and I am turned on by her sexuality but like I said I always date first and this was just to much to fast for me.
Can you guys offer any advice on how to approach the topic with her?
Like, I know I will probably be into all the same **** as her but I have never been a rough sorta guy and feel like I will still be scared limp the next time we sleep together.
Whats the best way to learn to be rough? How do I avoid getting to caught up in my head to ****?
(sum it up, I want to date her but she scared my penis)
Thanks again for listening to my stupid worries and offering your advice