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I have been with my boyfriend 2 years. I noticed since the beginning that he had trouble getting aroused before sex or even ejaculating but I didn't think much of it. I then noticed tissues or wipes in the bin or beside the bed and again I wasn't bothered as masturbation is a natural, normal thing. Until he masturbated twice in one night as I was in bed and I questioned why he could perform to porn with no trouble but not with me. I started feeling really insecure thinking that I wasn't good enough especially when he watched porn to get himself aroused to wake me up for sex as I wasn't happy that we hadn't had it in a while.It started causing a bit of friction in the relationship so he promised he wouldn't do it again. Turned out he couldn't abide to that promise as caught him again and he tried lying about it. So now along with severe insecurity I now can't trust him. I just want to point out that we had no relationship trouble at all to cause him stress that would in turn affect him sexually. I just want to know whether I am over reacting.
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I wouldn't take that as an answer & you are completely right. i would tell him that you have no problem at all with him watching porn in general.. but it's clearly becoming a problem. if it affects your sex life in a negative way than that's not acceptable. i would tell him he needs to cut it way down..taking 2 showers a day is a bit much and likely just an excuse for a time to watch the porn that is convenient & harder for you to object to.. if he can say 'i only watch it in the shower' it makes it not sound as bad as it is. touching yourself or watching porn occasionally is completely different than a multiple times a day regular thing. i don't often say this but he sounds a little addicted. i would tell him you're not stupid & your sick of him using showers as an excuse so cut the porn to 2 days a week & no more because this is getting ridiculous & it's affecting your sex life & relationship. choosing porn over sex with a you is not ok esp when he already watches it so much. f that ****. if he won't do it on his own tell him you want to do counseling or you're done.
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Well, I am also confused regarding this topic. Because you cannot control yourself after watching the porn movies. These movies are mostly used for increasing sex abilities. Even if you also prefer some erotic chat, then it is also a great thing to make a successful sexual life. But, in the regards to porn movies, I think, you should not prefer it on a daily basis. Because, it might be possible that it affects your relation because no girls want the daily sex. So, use porn movies only 2-3 days per week. If you do this, then it is best for your relationship.
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