The sad part in this as I see it, is that you are so dependent on him for everything in your life that you feel you have no control. You seek answers that only he can give and have no choices for the truth. Whatever his problem, stop being a slave to it as its more him, and his way to control, than it is you at all.
I would bet that you are isolated as well, and have no friends, or a social life other than with him, so you only know what he tells you. This is actually quite common for a control freak as denying you is part of controlling you.
The goal complete submission to him in every way. This happens in every culture, and has nothing at all to do with religion, but the fact he feels entitled to treat you this way. I don't know all his motives, but can only say that if you allow it without proper explanation, it will continue and get worse. I can predict if you press him for reasons his joking manner will become mean and threatening, and he will use your dependence to keep you in line or get sent home with nothing but shame for being a bad, disobedient wife.
Talking to his family is out, they are on his side, but a trusted female friend may help if you have one, but ultimately its you getting him to be honest that's the best solution, but have a care for your own safety, and welfare as I have no clue how far he will take things if you push to hard.
You do need facts of his true intentions though, so you can at least start understanding what's up with your guy. Pay attention to his goings, and comings, and friends, and be objective and not distracted by your personal feelings as your beauty has nothing to do with why he does what he does, except breaking your spirit to keep you away from others, he may fear can offer you more, I don't know.
Why have you not taken the steps to get more independent yourself, and be able to work where you are? Oh, I forgot, he probably doesn't want you to work. Are you allowed to pray with other females? Can you trust one of them to talk to??
Get some facts, but be careful.