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So about 2-3 weeks ago my boyfriend and I broke up for like 4 days. In those four days he started talking to this other girl who is friends with my younger sister. We got back together though so I assumed they stopped talking. Until yesterday, I noticed that she was his snapchat best friend and him and I snapchat a lot so they would have to be talking quite a bit for her to get to be his number one best friend. So I immediately assumed they were flirting because that's how they started back when we were broken up. In my moment of anger I tweeted "idk if you know the difference between single and taken but taken means DONT F***ING TOUCH HIM U T**T".

My sister questioned me about it so of course I told her because she's my sister. This his she went straight to her friend and told her what I said. Which made her message my boyfriend. She asked him if we were still together and he replied with "I don't know" when he's been telling me that we are 100% back together. My sister showed me the messages. So I asked him about that and he said it was easier than saying yes. I don't know what that means? So I decided I wanted to know if he was saying stuff back to her. I got my sister to text her and ask. She replied by saying she didn't want to intrude anymore. That obviously meant something. So I went to my boyfriend in person. I asked him if he was flirting back with her and he said "not going to lie I was a little bit" my heart literally broke.

This isn't like him at all, we've been together for almost 6 months and so far he's been perfect. I don't know why he did this. He apologized and told me it wasn't right of him to do that. I asked if he wanted to be with her and he said he only want me and that he's sorry and he didn't mean anything by it. I told him that I still wanted to be with him too. So we are still together however I still have this sinking feeling. I'm still very upset but I don't want to break up with him, maybe if he had done this before I would but no. I just don't know if I can trust him.

How do I know he's not going to do this again? I just feel so embarrassed because all his friends knew and I hang out with them sometimes. I feel humiliated basically and I don't think he gets that. I just don't know how to move on.
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This relationship is doomed. Too much drama. Real, lasting, relationships are face-to-face, not over stupid things like snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, etc.

Break it off. Neither one of you has respect for the other.
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You do a lot of assuming for one thing, and this latest episode is but one of many, and paints the story of him being less than perfect. Its no wonder you have trust issues after this latest drama. He has as many issues as you do, and I doubt either of you knows what to do about them, but for now while this last incident is still so fresh you let your own emotional dust settle and then try to talk about it rather than assume.

To be frank about it, you are only going to be as good as the next incident, and more drama until you get tired of this ad realize this love may not be worth holding on too for much longer. Love is never enough when there are this many problems in just 6 months, which seems to get bigger, and not better.

Sorry but teen love and feelings are confusing enough without the drama, and you have a lot of that already. For sure unless you can talk together better, or decide it's better to let it go, then it can't get any better regardless. I am sure you think you are holding on to LOVE, but I think you will find out that you are not.

Love is never enough to keep you together, not with so many other issues that you both have that needs to be dealt with, apart from each other. This just isn't a healthy love at all.