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I was out of a relationship recently and we were together for 5 years.. Now I met this guy and we met not even a month ago.. We are now dating and its been a week and a half and he has already been asking me questions about sex. I told him I wasn't ready yet and he keeps on asking me when I will be ready. He hasn't had sex in two years but I don't want to have sex with him yet. Everytime I talk to him now, he keeps bringing it up and keeps pushing me away from him to where I'm starting to not want to talk to him. I feel as though he's with me to get into my pants. I don't want to come off as a ***** to him and I don't know what to say. He also said that he's in love with me which is something I haven't felt yet because I was just out of a relationship. Does anyone have any advice on what I should say or do? Please no hate comments.
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"When will I be ready? Never, if we have to have this conversation again. I don't know whether you're saying you love me because you think it'll convince me to sleep with you or because you're just moving a lot more quickly than I am, but either way, it's making me uncomfortable. Either you need to accept that I want to take things slow for the foreseeable future and I'll let you know when I'm ready, or we need to agree this isn't working and move on. But my answer hasn't changed, and all repeatedly asking me about it when I've already told you how I feel is doing is turning me off."
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It is ok for you to be hesitant about sex after getting out of a long term relationship. Naturally, it would take time for you to warm up to the new guy. It looks like this guy has sex on his mind as a priority. But don't allow him to pressurise you if you're not ready yet. Tell him that it is rather too soon for you to be intimate with you at this stage. He'll understand and wait if he's mature enough, and he really loves you.

I hope this helps.

Good luck!
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