...I am a 65 year old male who has been seeing an extremely attractive 65 year old woman that I dated when I was 18. We go out on Fridays and to some family functions but we have not had sex in the 9 months that we have been seeing each other. As she has related to me many times over, her two marriages and two "almost" relationships were abusive and since those failures consumed her life, she has lived alone, dates no one (but me) and after a life of misery, marriage is not in the future ever....but "we" can be 'us" without it (as in each living apart . She shows me off to family and friends. When we are together, she passionately kisses me but when it comes close to sex so far, she says "it's not the time." She seems to like revisiting her young wild binge days to me frequently and at other times will reverently proclaim that she is not proud of many things she has done in her life. She says she wanted to experience the way men treated women in reverse so I can only assume that she gave herself in many ways. I look at her and am overcome with lustful thoughts and can't imagine her restraining herself even though she is admittedly "a very sexual person". I would love to trust her when she says she doesn't see anybody but I guess I am very curious to know how it is that a woman this sensual and beautiful, has no lovers and keeps me at bay in a relationship that she calls committed. I have fallen in love with her and have expressed this to her. It is something she can't say but I feel she feels the same only is in FEAR of being hurt again so keeps us at a safe distance. I do worry that this relationship might be limited by the scars of the past... as she puts it, "don't over think it, let it take it's natural course" -- Male and Female friends say, "I dont care how beautiful she is...run."...but I hate giving up and being defeated and I am addicted to her. Is it realistic to think that she is being truthful and saving it all for me?